Loving an Ex Boyfriend

How I Got My Ex Boyfriend Back

Almost every woman has been faced with the heart ache of a man she loves deciding he wants the relationship to be over. When it happened to me, I felt as though I was watching the only man I loved walking out of my life for good. I couldn’t eat, sleep or even focus on my work. My life came screeching to a halt and all I really wanted was for him to take me back.

It didn’t take long before I found out that he was already seeing someone new. This only made the pain I was feeling worse. I couldn’t understand how he could go from loving me to spending time with a new woman just weeks later. I knew she couldn’t be right for him.  I just didn’t know how to get that point across to him.

I made a huge mistake. I called him. I was emotional, almost hysterical and I begged him to dump her and take me back. He hung up on me more than once and completely ignored all my emails and text messages. I reached a point where I was desperate and tried to enlist the help of friends. I wanted them to talk to him for me. They all told me the same thing – to move on and forget him.

A caring and very honest friend finally told me that I needed to change what I was doing if I wanted any chance with him again. My whole approach, up to that point, consisted of crying, begging and pleading. It wasn’t working and the more time that passed, the more panicked I was becoming.

I decided that it was time for me to get serious about getting him back. I loved him and I wanted him and I wasn’t about to lose him forever to anyone else. It was then that I found a new approach and in no time at all he was the one calling me.

If you are stuck in this same situation and you love an old boyfriend, you can get him back forever and deeper in love with you than he was before. This worked for me. We’re back together and staying that way.

Mistakes to Avoid

What You Should Not Be Doing to Get Him Back

Right after the relationship with my boyfriend ended I felt as though my life was on hold. The only thing I could focus on was him and what went wrong. I played the past few weeks of our relationship, before the break up, over and over again in my mind. I was trying to find an answer to why the split happened. I also couldn’t stop thinking about getting him back. My mind was so consumed by thoughts of him that I let my emotions guide all my actions. I made some horrible mistakes.

Here’s a list of things I did that you need to NOT do if you are trying to get your old boyfriend back:

Waiting for him to call. I was guilty of doing this the first few weeks after the break up with my boyfriend and it was a big mistake. I was so worried that he’d call me at home that I didn’t venture out except to go to work. I actually even called in sick one day for fear of missing his call. Days and days passed with no call. I wasted a lot of time waiting. Don’t do this. Go on with your life and do all your normal activities. Sitting by a phone will not make it ring.

Ask him to explain the break up. If you are feeling a little lost about why the relationship ended, now is not the time to ask him about it. You’re too emotional right after the split and anything he says (or doesn’t say) is going to hurt. He likely won’t even have an answer for you. Don’t put him on the spot by asking why he doesn’t want or love you anymore.

Buy him gifts. This is another mistake that I made. I thought that if I sent him something I knew he wanted, that he’d see the error of his ways and want me back. It didn’t work that way at all. He returned the gift to me. It made me feel even worse.

Making even one mistake can cost you the chance to get him back. There are things you should be doing to get him back -learn what they are right now.

The Other Woman

What to Do if He’s Already Got a New Girlfriend

A break up itself can be devastating if you are still in love with your boyfriend, but if he jumps into a new relationship soon after ending yours, it can make you feel even worse. This is exactly what happened to me and the moment I realized he had moved on, I was certain I could feel my heart breaking inside my chest. I felt sick to my stomach and so sad. I was angry too and it was that anger that made me want to confront him. Not only did I want to ask him how he could be with someone so soon after being with me but I also wanted to tell him that he was making a huge mistake. I didn’t realize at that moment that even if your boyfriend has a new girlfriend, you can still get him back.

If your ex boyfriend has a new girlfriend you must handle the situation in a very specific way. If you don’t you’ll risk losing him forever to her or to some other woman.

If it’s at all possible, try your best to avoid being in a situation where you will have to spend time with the two of them together. If you know that he’s going to be at a social function that you are supposed to be at, don’t go. You’ll only be torturing yourself if you have to be face-to-face with him and his new girl.

If you can’t avoid it, you’ll need to be prepared to meet her. This is a tough one but how you handle it will determine your future with the man you love.

Make a promise to yourself before you see him with his new girl that you’ll be cordial and kind. Be polite to her and smile at both of them. Don’t be overly sweet but be sure to give him the impression that you are fine with the situation.

Chat with them briefly and then make a reasonable excuse to leave the conversation. Keep your cool and stay collected.

You want to walk away from the meeting leaving him with the impression that you are fine with him having a new lady in his life.The fact that you don’t get upset, you don’t complain and you are nice will confuse him and make him question what you are feeling for him. This is exactly what you want to happen.

You can control the situation when you are trying to get your boyfriend back, even if he already is interested in someone new. Find out how to do it now.

What to Text Your Ex Boyfriend

I know what you feel like because I was in your shoes at one time. You pull your phone out of your handbag or your pocket, you open your address book... you scroll to your ex boyfriend’s name and you are ever so tempted to send him a text message telling him just how much you miss him.

You want nothing more than to be with him again. You long to feel his arms around you, you miss the smell of his skin, the taste of his lips and the way he used to say your name as he looked lovingly at you. All of that has disappeared since the break up and now all you feel is hollow, alone and terrified that you may never find happiness again.

If you’re like I was, you struggle with finding the right words to text him, so you either put your phone away or sent a simple, text him back“hi”. The worst feeling in the world is when he doesn’t respond. When your phone doesn’t indicate a new text from your ex for an hour, then a day, and then a week.

That pain you felt before is now tenfold and on top of that you feel foolish, and angry that he just ignored you so easily.

I know that all you want in this world is for him to come running back, telling you that he can’t possibly spend another day without you. It’s what I felt too. 

Michael Fiore is my break up hero and he should be yours too. He’s the man who developed a system of text messages that cuts to the emotional core of a man and makes him literally crave his ex girlfriend again.

If a woman sends the right text message that awakens the deep feelings her ex boyfriend still has for her, he won’t be able to resist her. Men put this boundary around their feelings after a break up and only certain triggers can pull those emotions back into the light. Michael Fiore explains how you can accomplish all of this with a series of very specific text messages.

If you send your ex boyfriend the text messages suggested by Michael Fiore, in the sequence he prescribes, the dynamic between you two can suddenly change. It’s hauntingly effective and incredibly simple and the best part is that you can’t say or do the wrong thing because you’re following a proven blueprint.

Michael has a video posted that goes into much more detail about all this. You can watch it here.

Being strong right now may feel impossible, but you will get through this. Relationships have an ebb and a flow to them. You can’t predict the future, but you can take control of your own life.

Again, the video that explains how to use text messages to win him back is here.

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Get Your Boyfriend Back Advice

Your Weekly Tip on Getting Him Back

November 27, 2014-  One of the situations that you’re bound to face after a break up is how to respond when your ex boyfriend texts you out of the blue. This is more common than you think and initially you’re going to feel tempted to text him right back telling him that you’ve missed him and wish you two could work things out. Before you do that, take a few minutes to contemplate what is really happening. Quite often a man will miss his ex girlfriend just because he’s lonely. He’s not necessarily wishing they were back together. He’s just alone and feeling that pain causes him to reach out to the woman he was once close to. If that’s you, you’re bound to feel overjoyed and full of hope that he’s been thinking about you. These feelings within a man can be very short lived, that’s why it’s advisable that you wait a bit to text him back. Give it a few hours and then send him a very generic, uncomplicated text. Let him lead the conversation and set the pace but keep your guard up. Remember that you want to rebuild a long lasting, emotionally fulfilling relationship with him, you don’t want to get back into a situation in which he sees you as a temporary fix until the next girl comes along. Stay strong and show him that although you’re interested, you’re not willing to sacrifice your own emotions to fill in the temporary void he’s feeling.

 

 

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107 Responses to “Loving an Ex Boyfriend”
  1. twistyrose says:

    Hi,

    My boyfriend and I have just recently broke up. We dated for almost two years,on and off. He said he didn’t love me anymore,wasn’t happy with me,and wasn’t ready for a relationship. He is very religious and so am I. I prayed about it and was sure being with him and how my life was going at the time,was the right pathway. Yet, the big dude in the sky was telling him something completely different. Anyways, it’s been about a week since the break up and we have had constant communication since then. I even went to his house to talk things over (which was a bad idea,I know!). we fought so much about everything and he ended up saying ‘you’re pushing any chance of getting back together with me or having friendship with me!’. We argued a bit more,then I left. We talked a few days after that,but tonight, I think I just ended the whole constant communication thing. I didn’t talk to him a lot today,but did tonight on Facebook. I told him I was going through things that I written when we were together,and things of that nature. He was about to get offline when I said I had something important to tell him. I said, ” I am glad we broke up.Thank you.” He asked me why,and I wouldn’t give him an explanation. HE proceeded saying,” Well,I’m glad you feel that way…” and got offline. When I knew he was off, I sent him a message saying he can text me when I have some free time on Sunday. Letting him know, I am willing to have a civil conversation with him at some point and maybe even try to be friends again? I plan to start moving on,doing things for myself,etc. I wanted your advice though. Is there anything else I can do? I want to eventually get back with him,if there’s still a chance. I know now, I need to give him time and let him live his own life. But, I do really believe he is the one for me.

  2. Alex91 says:

    Thanks Gillian,

    We were talking yesterday, normally about what we’ve been up to, she seemed quite cold, not at one point did she open up at one point (seeming emotional) everything seemed quite formal, she went out in the town, i was out also, she text me a few times saying come to this club this is where I am, I made a few jokes like oh do you miss me then? Haha a few times, everytime she was quite blunt is saying no I don’t miss you, she just wanted to say hey, I’m a little concerned that her holiday isn’t for another 5/6 weeks for 2 weeks, by then we would of been broken up for over 2 months, if she isn’t showing any emotion towards me now (over text) then what chance do I have of her thinking everything over in 6 weeks time, it seems the longer it all goes on the more she pulls away, she also made a few jokes last night over text saying, i bet you go home with a sexy girl tonight, go you! Ha, I didn’t really like that comment, so I just told her that I’m not responding to that. She still hadn’t collected her stuff from my house, she also kept saying last night (a little drunk) that it’s now or never to see me, so I was like well if you miss me then you’ve got my number, you can always just come see me, she was like no, it’s now or never.! Then that was pretty much the end of the convo. I don’t think she feels anything / much for me, she never even slightly brings up the relationship in the convo, shall I just continue to text her as a friend and after a few times ask her if she would like to do something fun as friends? Do you think it would be wise to meet up with her one night ( as we go out on the same days) Or leave it to non drunken texting.. Even tho she always wants to see me to say hey when she knows im out… I’m a tad confused with her! Women truly are from Venus! Lol :)

  3. HelpfulDiva says:

    Hi Alex – You are so right about women being from Venus. :) There are a lot of clues in the things your ex girlfriend was texting you last night. For one, when she said “I bet you go home with a sexy girl tonight, go you” that was out of spite. Women do that when we are fishing for a certain response. Your ex likely wanted you to say, “I never do that” or “I haven’t gotten over you yet.” Remember that women aren’t as direct as men. We’d rather try and get our point across in a subtle way so we do and say things that are very hard to read. There’s truth to the rumor that a person loses some of their inhibitions when they’ve been drinking – many people (women included) are much more honest when they’ve had a few cocktails. From a woman’s point of view I can tell you, without reservation, this girl is definitely not over you yet. I don’t think meeting up with her when she’s been drinking is the right approach – she may have regrets the next day. Instead, when she does text you after a few drinks, text her back that you’d love to talk, but in a quiet place the next day. In life and love, Gillian

  4. HelpfulDiva says:

    Hi Twistyrose – There seems to be a lot of emotion between the two of you. I can tell you still love him very much and yes, I believe that you know when you’ve found “the one.” You’re definitely on the right path by focusing on moving on and doing thing for yourself. Right now the only suggestions I have for you is to follow through with no contact. You made it clear in your last message to him that you would be willing to have a civil conversation with him. He may not text you on Sunday as you requested. If he doesn’t, it’s not wise for you to text him. If you do that, you’re showing him that you’re essentially still chasing him. Give him time, room and some emotional space. You both need to decompress and figure out exactly what you feel for one another since the break up. Give him that, and take time to do that for you too. It’s important. In life and love, Gillian

  5. HelpfulDiva says:

    Hi Tercin – I’m proud of you. You’re really moving in the right direction. Regarding the pictures on Facebook – leave them for now. He’s shown you that he’s not in any hurry to remove the images of you on his Facebook, so follow his lead on this. Also, regarding the items of his that you have, don’t push to return them. If he needs them, he knows where to find them. If you randomly contact him to request he pick them up or suggest you drop them off, that will only look like you trying to get close to him again. Pack those things up, put them in the back of the closest and forget about them for now. Keep staying strong! In life and love, Gillian

  6. Alex91 says:

    Hi Gillian,

    Yes on the night that I said about. I said to her, why don’t we meet some other time? She just said no I don’t think so, it’s now or never, just I still didn’t see her whilst we were out. Like i’ve said previously it’s always me starting the conversations off, which just makes me feel like I’m opening my heart to more hurt, but I know it will be worth it if she does come back, the longest we’ve went without contact is two weeks, all our conversations consist of joking around and what we’ve been up to, I’m getting flustrated that she isn’t giving anything positive away, I feel like she’s going to stick to her guns with this and force herself to get over me! I know you said to text her every threw days but how would I go about the conversation? Would I try at times to remind her of some good times? Or just keep doing what I’m doing? I want to get in her head as much as possible before she goes away for two weeks in six weeks. After saying hey and chatting for a while, should I ask her to meet up to do something fun? I know I shouldn’t bring up the relationship, but what if she never does? I don’t feel very confident about my chances! Everytime I go out and might get a few of them looks in a club from girls, I just tend to ignore them and think of my ex, I’d hate to do anything with someone that could mess my doubtful romantic future with my ex! How do you feel I could approach my ex? & show her I’ve changed, which I truly have, if she’d come back I would start all over again and shower her with love, really would.

    Thanks in advance, happy Sunday to you!

  7. Tercin says:

    Hi Gillian,

    Im really having a confusing mind these days, I know Im moving thought this healing process and my heart feels better and better every day even if I do (still miss him and what we had). Drning the break up (3 weeks ago) he told me he wanted to stay friends but we havent talked, not once since April 30th. I did call and left a message on his home phone, yesterday (I knew he wouldnt answer that phone) to tell him about some folks we know that were in a boat accident, he hasnt even replied to that call. I think my mine is very confused, I went out with some friends last week and I meant a guy who asked me out!! I hesitated then I said sure (with a group of people) we went riding, spend the evening on the bikes and I ended up going home with him (we slept together) and now Im feeling quilty, Im not that type of women usally a 3 dater or more, what made me do that?? and that guy hasnt talked to me since he dropped me off monday morning, which is only a day but really (you slept with me) any way, two questions, 1) why is the ex not trying to contact me at all (there was no fight or arguement) 2) will this new guy call me even if I made the mistate to sleep with him, “I guess this break up has made me go crazy)…. thanks for any advise